Women are never disarmed by compliments. That doesn’t mean you should give up.
There Are Many Different Ways to Tell a Lady Just How Awesome She Is
Complimenting a person that you’re romantically interested in isn’t exactly an easy task. Your words shouldn’t come off as hollow, disingenuous, or as an attempt to get in her pants. At the same time, leaving her starved of affection and affirmation isn’t exactly a smooth move, either.
The trick is to focus on less obvious areas for praise in order to truly impress her. Calling her “the most beautiful girl in the world” is not a compliment that’s going to cut it these days, so you’re going to need to be slightly more creative. Below, you’ll find the top 10 compliments women can’t resist, and why you should be using them ASAP.
10 Different Compliments Women Actually Enjoy Hearing
1. ‘You’re hilarious!’
Men are so preoccupied with the idea that they need to be the funny one in the relationship that they stifle their significant other’s attempts at humor. Sometimes, it can lead to an awkward dynamic where the girl feels under-appreciated because it seems like you’re always trying to outshine her.
If you show sincere appreciation for her humor, she’ll warm up to you as a result.
Letting your date, girlfriend, or wife know you find her funny is usually best communicated by simply laughing at her jokes, or responding with the cry-laugh emoji to her funny texts. It can also be reinforced on occasion by letting her know in actual words (“you’re hilarious,” “you crack me up” or “you have such a sharp sense of humor”).
2. ‘I’ve learned so much from you.’
Everyone likes to feel as though they bring valuable information to the table. Whether your love interest is book smart or street smart, let them know that you value their opinions and input, and are eager to learn from them.
Everyone brings something to the table in terms of knowledge, so think carefully about what your partner is teaching you, and compliment on that specifically so that it’s more genuine. A more tailored way of delivering this compliment is by relating it to taste, noting that you appreciate what they watch, read, or listen to.
3. ‘You’ve got such nice eyes/lips/teeth/hair.’
Telling a woman she’s beautiful will usually be well-received, but it can be such a generic compliment that it occasionally comes across as a bit disingenuous. Go a step further by isolating her best features and targeting those specifically. If she’s got amazing, full lips, tell her so, or if she’s got gleaming white teeth, hone in on that particular feature.
The more specific you are, the better. It shows that you’re paying attention! It’s also best to avoid focusing on cruder, more sexual body parts (her boobs or ass, for example) unless you have an established relationship and are sure that it won’t come off as creepy. Complimenting a woman on her skin, hair or nails, especially if they are particularly clear, glossy and strong respectively, can be a good move, too. A lot of women put unheralded effort into those particular areas.
4. ‘I trust you implicitly.’
Jealousy can be an ugly dividing force in relationships, and if you have a tendency to let the green-eyed monster run a little wild, you should take stock of your partner’s loyalty. Compliment her for it!
After all, unless you have actual evidence that she’s cheated on you, she will appreciate some acknowledgment for staying true to you, especially if the norm for you is suspicious text messages and thinly-veiled accusations of flirting. Even though loyalty is something that should go without saying when you’ve committed to someone, that doesn’t mean you can’t show your gratitude for it.
5. ‘You’re not like anyone I’ve met before.’
This is not the same as saying, “you’re not like other girls,” which is unlikely to be well received by self-respecting women.
“You’re not like everyone else” acknowledges your significant other’s unique personality quirks and reassures her that you find them endearing rather than weird. We’d all like for our less conventional quirks and idiosyncrasies to be noticed and appreciated, because it means that we’re valued for who we are, not just the polished facade we adopt when we’re on our best behavior.
6. ‘You’re good at what you do.’
Whatever the woman in your life does in terms of career, hobbies, or side hustles, chances are she’s looking to be noticed for her skills and success. Pay attention to the craft that matters most to her. There’s no point complimenting her abilities at her 9-to-5 banking job if you know she finds it soul-destroying, but a meaningful compliment about her art will show that you care about the things she truly values. A compliment like this will set you apart and make her feel warm and fuzzy.
7. ‘I’m better when I’m with you.’
We’re often complimented for fairly meaningless things in life: our outfits, external attributes, or how nice the things we buy are. It’s very satisfying to know that the person we’re with appreciates us for so much more than the physical stuff. It strikes at the core of who you are as a person and your very best, most selfless qualities. If you tell your partner that you feel like you’re a better person when they’re around, it compliments them for being able to bring out, or enhance, qualities you didn’t know you had. As cheesy as it may sound, they’re the other half that’s capable of making you feel whole. If you let your significant other know that, odds are she’ll be left swooning.
8. ‘You’re so sexy.’
Keep this one for after a few dates, so you don’t come off as overtly focused on sex. If you’re in a relationship, your girl will want to be reassured that you find her attractive in a sexual way. Usually best for when you’re just about to get it on or when she’s looking and feeling her best, a “you’re so sexy” can really be the icing on the cake to boost her mood.
9. “You look amazing, as always.”
Complimenting a woman’s appearance can be delicate business. If you say something while she’s wearing a face full of makeup, she may feel as though you don’t like the way she looks when she’s more dressed down. Conversely, if you tell her you prefer her without makeup, she may take that as a sign that you find her too dolled up on other occasions.
For this reason, it’s best to keep compliments about her looks a bit more general instead of specific. The last thing you want is for something you’ve intended as a positive statement to make her feel worse about her appearance. It’s always a safe bet to say something such as, “you look great today,” or “you look amazing as always.”
10. ‘You’re my favorite person to spend time with.’
Telling someone that you enjoy their company is about the simplest, sincerest compliment on earth. It’s always great to hear from someone you’re seeing that you’re their favorite person to spend time with. Sometimes, long-term relationships lose a bit of the spark and passion that defines them early on. This can be a good way to reaffirm what your partner means to you, even if you’ve moved into comfortable, familiar territory.
Compliments are a simple way to strengthen a relationship while improving the self-esteem of your partner. The key with compliments is to make them thoughtful, specific, and related to things other than looks. If you’re being genuine and pointing out aspects you truly like about the person, you can’t go too wrong. Be generous with your verbal affection, and hopefully, she’ll return the favor!